As of May 2021, I’m currently enrolled in the John Molson School of Business’s Personal and Professional Coaching Certification program through Concordia University. My mission is to develop my core coaching approach, while tailoring my services to the high potential community.
As a gifted individual parenting a gifted child, I understand the particular challenges facing individuals with highly abilities in some areas, and the conflict this can create within themselves and their social circles. Asynchronous development is a reality but by factoring for what is, we can move onto what can be to live fulfilling and meaningful lives.
By working together to understand that a photographic positive is made whole by the existence of its negative, we will build new stories around your abilities so they become assets rather than liabilities.
What Is Coaching?
“ICF defines coaching as partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential. The process of coaching often unlocks previously untapped sources of imagination, productivity and leadership.
We all have goals we want to reach, challenges we’re striving to overcome and times when we feel stuck. Partnering with a coach can change your life, setting you on a path to greater personal and professional fulfillment.”
What Kind of Coach Am I?
I’m still working on defining exactly what it is that I DO, but my coaching style is a combination of the 6 What’s Method as established by James Gavin and Madeleine Mcbrearty of the John Molson’s School of Business Personal and Professional Coaching Certification (now the PGCC), and my own intuitive knowing. I coach to the ACC level standards of the ICF, and am working towards acquiring my paid hours to certify as an ACC level coach.
I’ve always had a capacity to see through stories and pinpoint the heart of the discord, and using the coaching model, I offer deep safety to my clients in order to unpack the contents of their truth and create order from chaos. The space we create together is collaborative. I am there simply to hold the framework. You, the client, are the expert in our space.
Over the course of a number of sessions, we dig deeply into the underpinnings of the stuck places. I use my skills and my abilities to listen deeply and actively, to reflect and mirror, to challenge where appropriate, and to wrap up any loose ends so that you come out of our time together feeling in charge, capable, and with more clarity than you entered with.
My clients report feeling much lighter, better, and with a strong sense of actionable direction. My intention is to end the sessions so that the client feels empowered and in charge.
My coaching picks up where some therapies leave off, as we work with your mindfulness practices in practical examples, and tune into the experience in your body first before developing a cognitive approach. Coaching and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy are great buddies, and my own method of finding the Value Neutral space within compliments the work of Dialectical Behavioural Therapy.
We work together on what is alive for you in the present moment. We identify what is stuck and design a plan for how to move forward. We use the power of your imagination to create an alternate reality that you’ve already arrived at so you can then envision how to get there.
We remember together why you want to live a meaningful life and give you the tools to design it.
How Do I Know if I’m Ready for Coaching?
You are ready for coaching if you are in acceptance of your past and what has happened to you, and are ready to move forward in spite of your past, using it as your jumping off place. While the past is obviously relevant to the present and the future, excavating and examining it belongs to the realm of therapy. But being able to account for it in a meaningful way, and in service to a clearer future, is within the scope of coaching. We work together on what is alive for you in the present.
If you have come to the present and are stuck on a problem, or can’t figure out how to move forward, coaching is for you. You can be aware that there are other options, but need the space and the professional support to be able to map them out so you can choose which way to go.
I will never tell you what to do. You are the expert on you. Through a very powerful intrinsic change process, I will help you to fully connect with your own capacity to make choices from a place of deep alignment within yourself. I will work with you to connect with where in your soma you experience the world, and from there we will build out awareness of all areas of your life so that you can create from a space of deep harmony.
I will work with you to:
- Recognize the choice in a split second to go into reactive patterns or to respond from a place of alignment.
- Develop the ability to hold both neutrality and activation simultaneously in your body through somatic awareness.
- Slow down your processes so that you give yourself the space to make objective choices.
- Challenge and account for all aspects of your story.
- Transform somatic experience into creation.
- Create space to explore the story.
- Determine where you can release value judgements about aspects of your story.
- Recognize where you’ve been outsourcing your value and your purpose.
- Understand your own capacity for objectivity on your own experience.
What Concepts Do I Work With?
Through my many years of experience as a small business owner, health coach, mentor, and drawing from my deep interest in the human experience as well as my high capacity for systematic thinking, I’ve developed the concept of Value Neutrality within the being. Being able to recognize and return to this place in one’s soma relates to the theory I’m working with about what we need to experience within ourselves in order to develop agency.
Other key words are accountability, outsourcing, and resourcing. But we work together to establish what these concepts mean in your terms, and in your language.
Often we will start by defining your top five values, and determining how your life choices to date reflect them (or if they do!).
My Take On Agency – And the Essence of my Coaching Practice
In any given moment, we have choice. But what are the factors that allow us to see that there is choice, when our conditioning drives us to hold ourselves harmless and pawn off consequences to external factors beyond our control?
One critical factor is being able to tolerate multiple states within our own experience. Even if we can only tolerate this for a split second, it can be long enough to be able to make conscious choices. Making conscious choice is the essence of agency.
Gaining agency translates to feelings of being in control of one’s experience.
Agency is the foundation of personal responsibility.
We achieve agency and the capacity to assume responsibly for the quality of our lives when we can enter the liminal spaces of our existences with curiosity, and rest there, between conditioned reactions and rational objectivity, for as long as it takes to assess and be comfortable with the outcome of our choice.
Agency exists at the intersection of linear and non-linear time. It is one fixed moment that is fully self-contained but that also exists on the continuum of our experience.
Agency is mostly a somatic experience, and only once gained can we enact cognition into service. So you can see why it’s one of those concepts, like empathy, that many have a hard time gaining access to.
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Coaching – Single Session
An average coaching session last 45 minutes. Book a single session at a time with me. I suggest booking a free interview prior to choosing this service so that we can be sure we understand what your needs are, and that I’m the right person to meet them.
Coaching – Five Sessions
Optimally we will work together over time, either weekly or bi-weekly, depending on your needs. A trust-based relationship is established over time, and this gives us the space to dig into the meaning of the topics you bring to our sessions.