My impetus, more and more as time goes on, is to share aspects of myself, with everyone, without reservation, and without concern for social construct.
Why is this so important to me?
The older I get and the more intimately I work with women of all ages, the more acutely aware I become of the constructs that have been designed with the sole purpose of restricting our individuality. Everything we do throughout the course of a day is governed by a script that has been programmed into us since birth, that we are to act a certain way, relate in a certain way, hold back, restrain ourselves, not take up too much space, and CERTAINLY not act as though we possibly love anything about ourselves.
Why is a personality like mine, where I don’t hold back, where I dare to love myself and SHOW how much I love myself, so threatening to so many? Well, first of all, that’s not actually my problem 😉 But besides that fact, the reactions I get to my unabashed self-expression reflect a deeply unwell victim-based culture, where my investment in myself reflects back at you the fact that you have no idea that you are ALLOWED to love yourself.
Well, I’m here to tell you that not only are you allowed to fall deeply in love with yourself, but, in fact, this is your OBLIGATION to the human species, and what you were put on this earth to do. And because you don’t know that, you feel miserable and alone and scared and lost. And that feels like shit. And when the mirror of me shows you what you’re really feeling and why, that is painful. And though I will remind you, over and over again, that the way you feel is NOT my fault, I will also hold your hand and show you that, despite your pain and your self-loathing, you are a beautiful, worthy, powerful and wonderful human being.
Express yourself. Reject the script that tells you that everyone else’s feelings are more important to yours and you are not entitled to feel the way you do. And make space for joy and wonder and love and show that to me, because I want to see the real you.