Guided Self-Noticing

An Exercise in Tuning in to this Moment through the Body This is a technique I use to guide my clients into attuned connection with their bodies, bringing attention to the connection with the physical nature of the world around them. We end by focusing our attention between the eyes and tasking the mind to…

Self-Attunement Coaching + Dialectical Being, Explained

I have been supporting individuals in a number of capacities for many years now. I’m a small business owner (www.applecheeks.com for those who are curious), and I was also a certified Whole30 coach (www.whole30.com) for a while. In 2020, I decided it was time to earn a coaching certification so I could begin to focus…

Where Do You Place Your Attention?

The last few weeks have brought with them some events that seemingly arose out of left field. I felt side swiped, blindsided, caught unawares. In hindsight, none of the events should have shocked me as they did. But they did, and that is a fact, and thanks to the extensive reading I’ve been doing about…

When the Question Changes

In a seemingly paradoxical and subtle manner, we can shift our attention away from the linear efforts at connecting to our emerging potential, and when this happens, the question changes. Let’s bring this concept into consciousness. When we ask questions of ourselves, particularly why questions, we engage with ourselves in a confrontational, combative, and judgement-loaded…

How Do I Know if I’m Ready for Coaching?

You are ready for coaching if you are in acceptance of your past and what has happened to you, and are ready to move forward in spite of your past, using it as your jumping off place. While the past is obviously relevant to the present and the future, excavating and examining it belongs to…

On Agency

In any given moment, we have choice. But what are the factors that allow us to see that there is choice, when our conditioning drives us to hold ourselves harmless and pawn off consequences to external factors beyond our control? One critical factor is being able to tolerate multiple states within our own experience. Even…

Somatic Experiencing

Somatic Experiencing – What is it? The work I do is challenging to put into words. I didn’t realize until recently how I feel my way through the world – but through my body, not my emotions.  The information we need to make decisions that honour who we are is not stored in the cognitive…

Gifted, And Owning It

The realization that I didn’t think like my peers came to me quite young. I lived in a fantasy world of stories for much longer than my cohort. My imagination and ability to play like a child lasted well into my teens. The imaginings were full bodied experiences, with heightened sensual components. When I could…

Mind Maps

This week I connected with the method of mind mapping my thoughts in order to understand my own processes better. I love the idea of using this technique as external storage. As well, the tactile experience of putting pen to paper and layering colours has reminded me of how much I enjoy making art, so…

Why What I Think Matters Less Than How I Think

Today I began my first intentional step on the road to becoming a more organized thinker. In November of 2020, when I enrolled in my coaching course, I was hoping that it would provide me with unprecedented (relative to my experiences with formal education) levels of intellectual challenge. It turns out that the methodology of…