Ideology vs. Philosophy

I’m in a very privileged position these days. Despite the chaos of trying to figure out which way is up through the charged experience of re-relating to my woman-child as we both go through a familiarly painful process of un-enmeshing and differentiating, the current version of this storm is offering me, once more, ample opportunity…

Setbacks and Disappointments

Setbacks and disappointment – What do we do when faced with these unavoidable circumstances? We could whine, complain, self-flagellate, blame others or ourselves. Or we could choose to lean into the understanding that this is life. The Stoic approach to life appeals to me on so many levels. Before I began to actively learn about…

When It All Comes Together

In early November I embarked on a brand new challenge. After 15 years as an entrepreneur, almost 17 years of motherhood, and with much more information about what is possible in relationship, it’s time for something entirely different. Except it’s not that different, I don’t think. It’s more like a convergence of all the things…

Where the Stillness Lives

How to put into the words the recent experience of moving my life to the back of my body? How to properly explain the emptiness at the front that isn’t loss or lack? How to communicate the peace that comes through the knowing, finally, that everything is exactly as it is meant to be? A…

My introduction to equanimity

Eight years ago when I first embarked with intention on my wellness journey, I began posting photos of my belly on social media. The purpose was definitely brag related, but it was never about weight. It was always about how the outward appearance of my belly reflected a state of inner chaos, and how the…

Free Flow

As I wait for my painfully slow dryer to remove the remaining dampness from the clothing I want to wear to work today, I am thinking about BREASTS. This summer I made the decision to become more comfortable with the nature of my breasts, and release myself from the conditioning that requires them to be…

My Great Brain

Do you remember the moment when you first became aware of an aspect of yourself that you continued to appreciate throughout the course of your life? Did you notice something in another that you were then able to see in yourself? Did you discover that you were exceptional in one area? Did you discover something…

We Must Have Order

The language is shifting again.Inhuman behaviours get normalized.Science stands in for god.One signals their virtue by way of conformity,A cute swatch of fabric covering a petrified face. Blend in.Disappear.Masks make right.Amplify the rhetoric.It is dangerous to oppose.Do not allow your individuality to emerge.You might get sick.They might come for you instead. Goosestepping off the sidewalk,Two…

There is Life After Facebook

Almost a year ago I did the unthinkable and pulled the plug on Facebook. The momentous event was not without just cause – I ran my mouth off through my fingers for the final time, brought brimstone and hellfire down upon myself, hurt my company, and created a situation for my business partner that she…

Breaking Up (with social media) Is Incredibly Hard to Do.

It is SO hard to leave social media. I thought I’d left it, but now I know that in this life, and without much more blood sacrifice, I may never be able to truly pull free. On November 16, I pulled the plug on Facebook. I was firm about it. In no uncertain terms, I let…

Resilience and The Edge

In the last two years I’ve experienced divorce after 20 years of marriage, a move, major business challenges, a breakup, and massive attacks from members of communities that I have built. I’d had the arrogance to think that I’d done the work to heal my wounds, that I was tough as nails, and that the…