Self-Attunement Coaching + Dialectical Being, Explained

I have been supporting individuals in a number of capacities for many years now. I’m a small business owner (www.applecheeks.com for those who are curious), and I was also a certified Whole30 coach (www.whole30.com) for a while. In 2020, I decided it was time to earn a coaching certification so I could begin to focus…

How Do I Know if I’m Ready for Coaching?

You are ready for coaching if you are in acceptance of your past and what has happened to you, and are ready to move forward in spite of your past, using it as your jumping off place. While the past is obviously relevant to the present and the future, excavating and examining it belongs to…

On Agency

In any given moment, we have choice. But what are the factors that allow us to see that there is choice, when our conditioning drives us to hold ourselves harmless and pawn off consequences to external factors beyond our control? One critical factor is being able to tolerate multiple states within our own experience. Even…

Why What I Think Matters Less Than How I Think

Today I began my first intentional step on the road to becoming a more organized thinker. In November of 2020, when I enrolled in my coaching course, I was hoping that it would provide me with unprecedented (relative to my experiences with formal education) levels of intellectual challenge. It turns out that the methodology of…

Setbacks and Disappointments

Setbacks and disappointment – What do we do when faced with these unavoidable circumstances? We could whine, complain, self-flagellate, blame others or ourselves. Or we could choose to lean into the understanding that this is life. The Stoic approach to life appeals to me on so many levels. Before I began to actively learn about…

My Great Brain

Do you remember the moment when you first became aware of an aspect of yourself that you continued to appreciate throughout the course of your life? Did you notice something in another that you were then able to see in yourself? Did you discover that you were exceptional in one area? Did you discover something…

We Must Have Order

The language is shifting again.Inhuman behaviours get normalized.Science stands in for god.One signals their virtue by way of conformity,A cute swatch of fabric covering a petrified face. Blend in.Disappear.Masks make right.Amplify the rhetoric.It is dangerous to oppose.Do not allow your individuality to emerge.You might get sick.They might come for you instead. Goosestepping off the sidewalk,Two…

There is Life After Facebook

Almost a year ago I did the unthinkable and pulled the plug on Facebook. The momentous event was not without just cause – I ran my mouth off through my fingers for the final time, brought brimstone and hellfire down upon myself, hurt my company, and created a situation for my business partner that she…

What Happened When I Stopped Complaining and Started Listening

This weekend marked a full two calendar months since I left Facebook, for good. I remember a day when not checking it for a day felt like a massive test of will. Now, the idea of entering back into that particular drama-ridden fray leaves me dyspeptic. My friend looked at me the other week and…

It’s Been 3.5 Weeks Since I Quit Facebook

Hello, I’m Ilana, and I’m a social media addict. Let me assure you that a) I’m not making light of addiction, and b) I have not been in denial of my own addiction over the course of years. I have fully owned it but because I was still a high functioning multi-hat wearer, I had…

May Whole30 with Ilana Grostern

Hello, Internet! You’re ready to GO! You’ve decided that you’re ready to do a Whole30! Whether it’s your first or your 4th, you still feel you could use a little hand-holding and someone to talk to when those cravings threaten to get the better of you. Also, you want to connect with other people in…