I am so pleased to share my first article on the body-mind connection, and why fostering it reduces dependency on emotionality. This is a perspective that I’ve been personally integrating over the last year, and stepping into my true vocation has allowed me to create a platform to share information with you, about you, that…
C h a o s
I will never claim to fully understand the phenomona that I talk about and use in my work. The beauty of being is that we don’t have to be able to intellectualize everything from every angle in order for it to be useful. Last week in my training we learned about chaos theory. Specifically, we…
Normalize Being Boring
Something I warn my clients about is that the experience of a regulated nervous, especially once we’ve stabilized into it, can feel extremely boring in contrast to our usual way of being. When one is used to the highs and lows of sympathetic nervous system activation, feeling peaceful, calm, centred, and grounded for ongoing periods…
One Resonant Human
Expanding on part of a Facebook conversation yesterday. The question was whether or not we could come into resonance within ourselves if we’d never had the experience of being championed for that which did not come easily as children. If we’ve never had the experience of being attuned to properly in childhood, or even in…
An Introduction to Body-First Living
Once upon a time, before a man named Descartes won a popularity contest, we understood that we weren’t separate from all that is. We valued the mind in service to the body, not the other way around. The unfortunate impact of the Cartesian Split is that we now have a society populated by humans who…
A Conversation About Rest
There are so many cultural beliefs about rest. While a myriad of self-help books exist around the concept of work-life balance, there is little space for a true and honest conversation about what it means to truly rest and be rested. While many can recall the experience of restedness in our minds and bodies, social…
On the Hard Days – A Podcast Interview
I had a wonderful opportunity a few months back to talk about the somatic element of giftedness and the implications of not teaching our gifted kids to connect with their bodies. Megan is doing some wonderful work with her own podcast, On The Hard Days – Podcast & Community, and it was an honour to…
Guided Self-Noticing
An Exercise in Tuning in to this Moment through the Body This is a technique I use to guide my clients into attuned connection with their bodies, bringing attention to the connection with the physical nature of the world around them. We end by focusing our attention between the eyes and tasking the mind to…
Self-Attunement Coaching + Dialectical Being, Explained
I have been supporting individuals in a number of capacities for many years now. I’m a small business owner (www.applecheeks.com for those who are curious), and I was also a certified Whole30 coach (www.whole30.com) for a while. In 2020, I decided it was time to earn a coaching certification so I could begin to focus…
Where Do You Place Your Attention?
The last few weeks have brought with them some events that seemingly arose out of left field. I felt side swiped, blindsided, caught unawares. In hindsight, none of the events should have shocked me as they did. But they did, and that is a fact, and thanks to the extensive reading I’ve been doing about…
When the Question Changes
In a seemingly paradoxical and subtle manner, we can shift our attention away from the linear efforts at connecting to our emerging potential, and when this happens, the question changes. Let’s bring this concept into consciousness. When we ask questions of ourselves, particularly why questions, we engage with ourselves in a confrontational, combative, and judgement-loaded…
How Do I Know if I’m Ready for Coaching?
You are ready for coaching if you are in acceptance of your past and what has happened to you, and are ready to move forward in spite of your past, using it as your jumping off place. While the past is obviously relevant to the present and the future, excavating and examining it belongs to…
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