Wellness is Incidental

My biggest existential coup is that my sucking, cloying attraction to social media has vanished. I have written in the past about leaving Facebook. This may be another one of those posts – only time will tell. But I know something is different, so I am writing from where I find myself. Something has fundamentally shifted and this I can’t deny. This is key, this shift. This is more incidental wellness.

The Body Barometer

While I do bill myself as a somatic coach, I also operate with the understanding that we didn’t grow up knowing how to use our entire beings to be well in the world. The fact is that it’s not the mind alone that informs us of how we are. It’s the bodymind that exists in…

Identity

Due to my particular wiring and the conditioning around it, my tendency, at any given point, is to look for connections between things and identify patterns. What has come to the forefront of my attention over the course of the last two years is I D E N T I T Y. We’ve all found…

The Value of Neutrality

My most revelatory moments seem to come when I’m on a walk. The first time I truly embodied rapture, I was walking down a busy metropolitan street listening to music, and had to look down to see if my feet were still touching the earth. For a moment, I felt perfectly suspended between heaven and earth,…

Hishtavut, Revisited

An oldie, but still me.  It’s been an astonishing realization as of late that instead of moving with the chaos into more chaos of my own I am instead connecting more and more deeply with a neutral experience of myself and the world. This is the state that we know as equanimity.  Sometime mid last…

Oversharing on the Internet to Prove a Point

This was a text I sent out with my last email, so it’s a few weeks old. Gosh, what a whirlwind last three weeks. Today is the first day that I feel balanced, grounded, refreshed, and resourced, and I’m going to tell you why I’m sharing this with you. Often, when getting to know a…

Two Unconscious Practices to Bring Into Awareness

Two MAJOR sources of unconscious energy drains are: Emotional labour Mental load In heterosexual spaces, women tend to assume the burden of both WHETHER OR NOT IT’S NECESSARY. And they are so conditioned into us that we don’t even notice we’re doing them – they become part of the landscape. One day, we suddenly become…

One Resonant Human

Expanding on part of a Facebook conversation yesterday. The question was whether or not we could come into resonance within ourselves if we’d never had the experience of being championed for that which did not come easily as children. If we’ve never had the experience of being attuned to properly in childhood, or even in…

A Conversation About Rest

There are so many cultural beliefs about rest. While a myriad of self-help books exist around the concept of work-life balance, there is little space for a true and honest conversation about what it means to truly rest and be rested. While many can recall the experience of restedness in our minds and bodies, social…

Self-Attunement Coaching + Dialectical Being, Explained

I have been supporting individuals in a number of capacities for many years now. I’m a small business owner (www.applecheeks.com for those who are curious), and I was also a certified Whole30 coach (www.whole30.com) for a while. In 2020, I decided it was time to earn a coaching certification so I could begin to focus…

When the Question Changes

In a seemingly paradoxical and subtle manner, we can shift our attention away from the linear efforts at connecting to our emerging potential, and when this happens, the question changes. Let’s bring this concept into consciousness. When we ask questions of ourselves, particularly why questions, we engage with ourselves in a confrontational, combative, and judgement-loaded…

How Do I Know if I’m Ready for Coaching?

You are ready for coaching if you are in acceptance of your past and what has happened to you, and are ready to move forward in spite of your past, using it as your jumping off place. While the past is obviously relevant to the present and the future, excavating and examining it belongs to…