Vulnerability. Our collective Achilles heal. The majority of the people on this planet spend their lives doing everything in their power to avoid experiencing pain. But guess what you cannot have access to if you are not willing to risk feeling pain? That’s right. You guessed it. Without the experience of pain, pleasure is not within…
Author: ilanagrostern
Time
Instead of saying, “I didn’t have time for this or that”, try an exercise in truth. Change the dialogue to, “This or that was not high enough on my list of priorities to achieve in the amount of time I allotted to achieving things.” Use this dialogue to understand, finally, how you prioritize your relationship…
The Rift
In the early stages of coming into ownership of our lives and choices, we can’t avoid clashing with others and ultimately, we shouldn’t try, not in the early stages of the Work. The rifts in relationships that are caused from the disagreement and our reactions to the disagreement show us where the weaknesses are in…
Watch Your Words
Words that misrepresent our relationship with the food we consume: Healthy. Clean. Food can never be healthy. Food can be health promoting. You get to health and wellness by choosing how to nourish your body and soul. Quit labelling your food the wrong way.
Give Fucks – But Choose
There is a difference between not giving a fuck as a defense mechanism, as armor against potential hurt, and being immune to the opinions of others. Give fucks. Give tons and tons of fucks. Don’t claim not to care. Care deeply. But not about the opinions of others. Care ABOUT others and what happened to…
Unconditional Love
The thing about unconditional love is that you don’t have to prove yourself worthy of it. It’s simply yours, no questions asked. So really, it takes the pressure off you to BE anything and leaves you all the room to DO the work you are now able to see that you need to do.
Where is your energy going?
The amount of energy involved in resisting personal growth is about double what is required to grow, in my humble estimation, based on personal experience and anecdotal observation.
What do you REALLY want?
When we say we want something, do we actually mean we want it? Or are we actually saying we think it should be handed to us on a silver platter, that it should be given to us as a right of our existence? Are we willing to do the work involved to get what we…
Look for Root Cause
An example of a socially-condoned attitude that needs to change: “Doctor, I can’t breathe out of my nose.” “You have allergies. Here’s a pill.” Problem fixed. Or is it? In actuality, a new problem has been created which does not address the original problem. Now we have an individual with potential lifelong drug dependency, as…
No Butts
Collecting thoughts from the course of the day to channel through social media – Today I am back to butts! I posted about this the other day, but it’s worth sharing again – we are largely a buttless society. And I’m not referring to the fact that many carry their energy reserves in the trunk. I’m referring to the lack of glute muscles most have. And, I’ve learned, since reading Move Your DNA by Katy Bowman, that glute development can actually happen as a result of minor lifestyle adaptations.
On Motherhood – An Essay
There is information out there that is fully accessible to us if we know how to look for it. There are words available that define the experiences we’re all living right now, because none of them are actually unique to us. Words are the bridge that connect our internal selves with our external selves and that allow us to live genuinely and authentically every single day of our lives. Look for these words in books, in internet articles, hear what the women around you are saying and open yourself to receive the messages being offered. These messages are the key to finding balance in our lives as mothers and as women.
The Rack of Accountability
This clothes rack of mine is significant in a few ways. Now that I am in the final stage of my current journey, I am owning aspects of myself that have felt non-integratable until now. I have been a mindless consumer of clothing, because new things gave me a temporary endorphin hit, and so I…
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