This is a fuck it post for the women who leave. This is a fuck it post for all the women who have chosen emancipation, as fucking HARD as it is, over the life proscribed for us by the patriarchy. This is a fuck it post for the women who have chosen their hearts and…
For the Sake of Accountability
Just because a person earns a certification does not mean that they are a shining example of perfection in all relevant areas in their personal lives. It simply means that they hold more knowledge on a subject than the average person, that they have passed all relevant testing procedures, and that they have, hopefully, an…
Skin Food for Thought
So I think I mentioned a couple of posts back that I’m going to be turning 42 in March. And though I TRY very hard to not subject myself to social standards that place value on youthful appearance, it is a daily challenge to accept the way that age has written itself on my face. I…
Look for the Root
An example of a socially-condoned attitude that needs to change: “Doctor, I can’t breathe out of my nose.” “You have allergies. Here’s a pill.” Problem fixed. Or is it? In actuality, a new problem has been created which does not address the original problem. Now we have an individual with potential lifelong drug dependency, as…
Contraction and Expansion
It’s been a long time since I felt in the right place to sit and get my thoughts down. Here I am, now, somewhat settled into a new normal, a new home, a new me, a new beginning, a space full of promise and potential. And so, I settle into a beat up old wing…
Not everyone is going to like you
Our mission in life cannot be to make sure that everyone likes us. With this kind of a goal, one is destined for failure. Trying to make everybody like you will always require major sacrifice of self, and result in misery. Be loud if it suits you, quiet if it does not, or somewhere in…
Don’t Wait To Be Asked
If you sit around waiting for people to ask how you are, you may be sitting for a very long time. Share. Don’t wait to be asked. Take up your space. And let others deal with their own reactions to your suffering.
The Body Signals
The more time that goes by, and the more I live and see and surrender to, the more I realize that the symptoms my body manifests are all tied into the psycho-spiritual realm. And there’s so much…I don’t know…comfort in that?
On Integrity
It’s a trying time. We’re in a state of radical expansion now, from an esoteric perspective, and boy, is it ever painful. Here’s what I’m seeing now, and I’m recording it here so that a year later I can look back and say, “Holy crap, Ilana – were you ever talking out of your ASS.”…
Take up your space.
There is space that is created, when you come in to this world, just for you to occupy. If you shrink to try to avoid taking it up, because you feel you are not worthy of all of it, the absence of you in that space creates a black hole that sucks in all the…
Intentions for my 42nd Year
This year, my 42nd trip around the sun (and on my 41st birthday) – I am setting the following intention for myself. I will move backwards. I will take the path of most resistance and challenge to foster further growth and resilience. I will rewalk my paths, leading with the other foot. And I will…
Ilana Grostern Coaching 